Finding Direction When You Feel at a Crossroads
At the crossroads
The past weeks, several clients brought up a common theme. It is the desire to find their North Star, the direction for the upcoming years.
There are so many opportunities, so many possible paths. They have multiple talents and gifts, but the questions that keep returning are:
What should I focus on?
What gives me energy?
What drains it?
What is the emerging pattern from my past choices and how can I use these insights to fuel change?
Who am I, really, and what are my true talents and gifts?
There’s a sense that there’s more potential, more to give, but also uncertainty about what that potential is, and where or how to use it.
When the Past Feels Heavy
One client is looking back at their career while standing at a crossroads between two places, two possible futures. There’s a creeping sense of regret: What if I made the wrong decisions back then? If I had done things differently, would I feel more confident now?
This kind of reflection can easily become self-blame. But really, what is right or wrong? Can we truly carry the entire burden of how things have turned out?
Regret often comes from a belief that there was a single correct path — a version of life we “should” have chosen. Yet that kind of thinking burns energy and erodes confidence.
How can you trust yourself forward if you don’t trust the choices that brought you here?
A shift in perspective helps: instead of asking “What did I do wrong?”, ask “What have I learned?”
What do I know about myself now, thanks to those experiences?
What did those choices teach me about what truly matters?
Sometimes, it’s precisely because of our past choices that we’re able to see more clearly what doesn’t fulfill us and start noticing the first glimpses of what does.
When the Energy Fades
This client has recently moved to a new country. What once felt exciting and full of promise now feels flat. The work that used to bring joy no longer does. He’s tired perhaps from all the effort it took to settle in, adapt, build routines, and create a new life.
Maybe it’s also the quiet realization that expectations haven’t matched reality. The honeymoon phase is over, and what’s left is the question: What now? Should I stay or go back?
Transitions like this (be it a new country, company or a new positions) can drain energy because they shake our sense of belonging and identity. It takes time to integrate a new chapter, to find balance between old and new, between who we were and who we’re becoming.
When Freedom Brings Confusion
Another client has recently created the life she long wanted. It has more flexibility, more freedom. Yet now she finds herself asking: What do I really want? What will make me look back at my life when I’m 80 and say that I fully lived it?
After building something new, she wants to understand what truly fits her — not what she should fit into.
Life changes like moving, becoming a parent, or starting a business often awaken deep reflection. They invite us to ask what really matters and what kind of life we want to create next.
The Deep Longing
All these stories share a common thread. It is a longing to understand oneself more deeply, to live out one’s potential, and to use one’s energy for something meaningful.
Finding your next step isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about creating space for the questions and learning to listen to yourself with curiosity rather than judgment.
Sometimes, being “clueless” is not a sign of failure but a quiet sign that something new is trying to emerge. You are entering the next level.
Finding Your Next Step — Coaching Journey
If you find yourself in a similar place wondering what’s next, feeling low on energy, or sensing that something deeper wants to unfold, I’ve created a coaching journey designed to help you reconnect with your direction and move forward with clarity and confidence.
Together, we’ll look at what gives and drains your energy, what truly matters to you, and what steps will lead you toward a more fulfilling path.